Many people have already made sure that in order to achieve the goal, especially long-term, it is not enough just to give yourself the floor and decide to work, gripping your teeth. The process will necessarily laziness and a lot of excuses will return to the old thoughts and beliefs. As a result, the case will be idle for weeks. What to do? We need to change radically and stick to a step-by-step system of achieving the goals, which we will discuss today.
Of course, some people are able to achieve everything they want. And they are very surprised that others can not. They even write books about how easy it is. But most of these authors forget that man is a very complex matter, that it is influenced by hundreds of different factors. You need to work very seriously with your mind and thinking, one desire to achieve the goal is not enough. At least because it may disappear the next day.
Therefore, we will not just present a step-by-step plan to achieve the goals, but also try to approach the issue comprehensively, understanding that a person is always very passionate to return to the past state. Change is hard. Therefore, you need to carefully study yourself and follow some rules.
Let’s start with the excuses in which almost every one of us has reached perfection.
What kind of apologies do we come up with for ourselves?
Goals, especially long-term ones, cause very unpleasant feelings in us. For various reasons: we have not felt progress for a long time, the path seems endless and much more.
That’s why we often come up with excuses. It’s our way of explaining to ourselves why we don’t cling to every chance to succeed in life. Here are the most popular ones.
- I’m not educated enough.
- I don’t have enough money.
- I don’t have time.
- I’m not confident enough.
- I just don’t have enough experience.
- Not ready yet.
- I don’t know where to start.
- It’s complicated.
- I am afraid.
- It’s too risky.
All these excuses keep us in one place for a long time. Therefore, before you learn to set goals, you should work with yourself and clearly decide that you will no longer accept apologies.
Every time you catch yourself on such thoughts, immediately mark them as excuses. You can sit down and write about it in your diary. Awareness in our business is extremely important.
Excuses are and laziness, and we will consider it separately.
How to cope with laziness?
The one who indulges laziness loses vast amounts of money, time, prospects and opportunities. Perhaps this is the critical difference between a successful person and a loser. Great people are not afraid to work and do it wisely, and the average is looking for excuses and finishes thinking as soon as out of the office.
To get rid of laziness, you need to do four essential steps:
Determine why there is laziness
Think about all the possible reasons why you fall into the trap of laziness and ask yourself:
- Why am I indulging my laziness?
- Am I bored, tired, lack of inspiration?
- I’m afraid to achieve something and therefore use laziness as a mechanism of avoidance?
- What exactly am I afraid of and trying to avoid?
Examine long-term effects
We often indulge our laziness, because we cause not enough pain in ourselves. It turns out that it is better not to achieve the goal than to achieve it.
So you have to convince yourself that if you are lazy, it will lead to great pain in the future. Make a list of all the long-term effects.
To challenge yourself
When you challenge yourself, you feel alive. Ask yourself: “Am I weak?”.
Every day remind yourself that only by setting a serious goal, you will be able to cultivate character and become a really strong personality.
Immediately take action
Long to engage in self-reflection without action is dangerous. There is a risk to stay in yourself for a long time, to close: then the study of personality will only be harmful.
Learn and know yourself, but in the process of achieving goals. Move in small steps, develop your personality and learn on the way.
A step-by-step system to achieve goals
The process of achieving the goals should be divided into several consecutive steps, that is, to create a system.
Step one: create your system
To do this, go through five mandatory steps.
Clearly define what you want
The goal you set is limited only by your imagination. Therefore, at this stage it is necessary to allocate enough time without getting off the banal: “I already know what I want, what’s next?”.
Goals can be different: career, family, financial, as well as in the field of health, self-development, public service.
In this case, the goal itself, in fact, does not matter. It is only a product of your true desires. Answer three questions:
- What exactly do I want?
- Why would I?
- When do I want?
These questions will help not to concentrate on the goal, but to look inside yourself first of all. It may turn out that many desires were not real and did not reflect the real state of things in your soul.
People don’t reach their goals because they don’t answer these questions. And they are very important because they allow you to draw motivation for every day. For example, today you desperately wanted to learn how to play chess. This desire sincerely. But in a few days, it will be gone, and time will be lost. You’d better ask yourself why.
And of course, put a deadline. Without it, you will not create a sense of urgency within. Without time you will not adjust yourself, become lazy and eventually give up the goal.
Decide if your goal matches your personality
To understand what kind of person you are, you need to understand what it is: values, standards, beliefs, lifestyle and priorities.
We know it sounds pretty depressing. But do not go to the next section, because this is also incredibly important. Many people simply do not pay attention to what individuals are. They set themselves excellent goals and even begin to go to them, but eventually throw. These goals simply did not correspond to the key features of their individuality.
There is a concept of congruence in psychology. It is the consistency of speech, ideas and beliefs among themselves. In a broad sense — the integrity, self-consistency of the individual.
You must have had periods when you did everything right and felt miserable. Have you ever wondered why? The psyche feels the mismatch of actions and personality parameters, so transmits this information with the help of bad mood and the feeling that you are “out of place”.
Knowing yourself is a long process. But you can start with simple but correct questions:
- Is this goal consistent with my core values?
- Do I truly believe that I will achieve this goal?
- Does this goal fit my lifestyle?
- Can there be an internal conflict?
- Perhaps I need to adjust my priorities to make room for this purpose?
- Does this goal contradict my other goals?
- How can this contradiction be resolved?
- When I reach my goal, will I be the person I’m trying to be?
The reality is that if your core values, beliefs and priorities are not in harmony with the goal, then there is little hope for a result. But if you set aside some time and set the right goal, then everything will go like clockwork: you will feel that you are doing everything right.
Consider the external consequences
When we set a goal, we think about how it will affect our lives, personality and the amount of time. But we rarely analyze what will happen to the environment and other people. And this can lead to big problems and conflicts.
Each goal you set has a number of consequences, both good and bad. Ask yourself the following questions:
- Who could potentially be affected?
You should not presumptuously think that you will easily cope with conflicts in the future or that this is not something you should pay attention to. Such ignorance can be expensive. It is better to take measures to minimize the damage. In the end, if you decide to visit the gym every day, you will spend less time with your loved ones. It will inevitably affect your life in one way or another. So consider a variety of scenarios.
Ask yourself the following questions:
- What good is my current situation?
- Having achieved this goal, will I be able to keep all the good that is now?
Now you have a lot of time that you can spend with your children. But if you start to work more, it will not be enough. How will this affect the family? It is not necessary to give up your dream, but it is important to understand that the consequences will inevitably be.
- What sacrifices will I have to make to achieve this goal?
- Can I really make these sacrifices?
That’s the price of success. To make the right decision, consider the following:
- What are the consequences of abandoning this goal?
- What is at stake?
- What can I miss, or lose?
- How would that make me feel?
Now you can see that even though you will spend less time with your family, it will only lead to the best in the end. You will be able to earn more money, provide children with a good education. As a result of the described analysis, you can also understand that you should choose a completely different goal.
There will be many questions:
- What will I get if I achieve this goal?
- What will my family get if I achieve this goal?
- How will it change me as a person?
- How would that make me feel?
You probably counted on some simple system of five steps, which can be written on a piece of paper or study for 10 minutes. But we suggest starting to learn a lot about yourself, as well as learn to predict the consequences. With this approach, the chances of achieving the goal will increase significantly.
Create an outline of a plan
It’s time to make a plan to achieve your goals. It will help you understand what obstacles you may face. It is also useful to think about the resources that may be needed.
First, let’s think about the obstacles. They can take many forms in the form of people, events, circumstances, fears, limited beliefs, lack of experience or knowledge. Not everything can be prepared, but remember that you always choose your reaction. Ask yourself:
- What potential obstacles might stand in my way?
- How can they hinder my progress?
- What should I do to successfully deal with them?
Resources can be presented in the form of tools, skills, knowledge, Dating and more. It may take a little time to get the information you need.
Every obstacle you face is nothing more than a problem that can be dealt with through creative thinking, the right resources and resourcefulness.
To learn how to plan for the future, ask yourself:
- What resources do I have?
- What resources might I need?
- How can I receive them?
Remember also that you do not need to have all the skills and knowledge. Other people might come in handy for that. So you must learn to find useful connections.
Take a piece of paper and start creating a rough plan. Take into account all your answers that were given before.
Make a plan of action
Many time management experts argue about whether the action plan should be too detailed. The answer is: try both.
And best of all, create two plans at once. The first is detailed, and the second is in General terms, which indicates only the right direction. In a month, you’ll be able to figure out which one is better. Or maybe you realize that both are good and in harmony with each other.
The action plan is a step-by-step guide on how you are going to achieve your goal. A simple example: you want to join a gym. And one attempt has already been made, but in the end left after two weeks. Action plan:
- Earn money for a subscription.
- Get an extra job (which you can then quit to free up time).
- Buy a few books about sports and fitness.
- Buy a subscription and sportswear.
- Create sports affirmations in order to maintain the level of motivation at the highest level.
- Meet like-minded people.
- Create a new diet.
Step two: use the visualization technique
Visualization technique helps to get a solid share of motivation every day. Each of us is faced with the fact that waking up, has no desire to achieve their long-term goals. This state is discouraging.
Sit in a quiet place where no one can disturb you. Start to imagine your goal. Throw yourself into the future and feel that everything turned out. How are you feeling? Who’s there? What thoughts in your head?
Now think about the last action that was taken to achieve such an outstanding result. Next, move in the opposite direction: the penultimate action and so on.
“Find yourself” in the present. Now you know how to reach the goal. Moreover, mentally went through all the difficulties and cope with them.
Step three: create your morning schedule
Everything is decided in the morning: it is necessary to give yourself a break, as in a few hours you will feel laziness of such force that it will kill all desire and enthusiasm. Create the right mood with some repetitive actions.
Immediately after waking up
No matter how hard it is, smile right away. Probably nothing special will happen after this action. And it’s okay, because no one promised a magic pill. But it’s a start.
Ask yourself a few correct questions while lying in bed:
- Proud of what?
- Than I exasperated?
- What am I grateful for?
- What do I expect from today?
- What am I going to do today?
Drink a glass of water. This simple act will help to fill the shortage of water formed during the night.
20 minutes after waking up
Meditate. Allocate at least 5-10 minutes for this. With this exercise, you will bring the brain in order.
Take a diary and write down the goals for that day. If they’re already there, reconsider. It will only cost a few seconds, but it will allow you to tune in.
Read an inspiring book. It can be about self-development, about achieving goals, about dreams. The point of all this is to get enough motivation. Without it, it will be very unpleasant to take up the case.
Use Brian Tracy’s technique
If everything written above seems too complicated, then try something simple that you can use right now.
Brian Tracy does so much consulting work to achieve goals that this technique can be tried:
- Cause a burning desire.
- Believe in themselves.
- Write down a goal.
- Analyze your starting point.
- Determine why you want to succeed in this field.
- Set a deadline.
- Identify the obstacles.
- Determine what additional knowledge you may need.
- Determine what kind of people you may need.
- Make a plan.
- Never give.